Dresses? Not at church!

I am tired of being the only woman at church on Sunday in a dress. Lately, it seems every other female at church is wearing pants. Now I’m not dresses only, but I do think a dress or skirt is more feminine. It’s more ladylike. So why am I the only one wearing one?

I’m not saying it’s sinful to wear pants to church, but it’s not dressy. It’s not as feminine. God designed us to be male and female. What better place to show those differences? I wonder if it’s not pants so much that are the issue, but the lack of “dressing up” at church now. I realize that there are people who are wearing the best they can. If jeans and a t-shirt are the best you can, wear it and don’t be ashamed. But those are not the people I’m talking to. Why are we treating church as some other thing we do, like going to the mall or the grocery store? Shouldn’t we dress up a little to show some respect? It’s not like going to the mall or the grocery store. It’s a place of worship. I think it’s great to be comfortable at church, but we should never forget we’re in the house of God. Do we want God to see us dressed in ratty shorts and a t-shirt in His house, when we know we could do better? Yes, God looks at the inside, but man looks at the outside. Man sees us dressed inappropriately and thinks Christianity is no different that any other religion.

I know some will say casual dress at church makes seekers feel more welcome and not worry about standing out. I understand that. But if you’re a Christian, you are called to be different from the world, not to make the world feel better about themselves. I don’t think we should make anyone feel bad about not being dressed properly. But if we’re Christians, we ourselves do need to dress properly. I’m tired of seeing women who have nice, expensive clothes in their closets wearing ratty jeans and a t-shirt at church. They’d dress up to go to a wedding. Why not the house of the Lord?

Maybe we’re just too casual in everything. Maybe it’s not just church. Look at the average person you see anywhere–even the grocery store or mall. Very few people are dressed appropriately. I have a kid. I know it’s hard to get out the door looking decent at times. Sometimes it’s impossible. But this is a trend, not something you see every now and then. I think it goes back to the lack of modesty in general. While shorts may be appropriate at the gym, they’re not a good way to set an example of modesty at church.

At a church we attended a few years ago, there was a huge controversy over swimsuits in the service. Yes, swimsuits. The youth group was on their way to a water park that afternoon and many of the kids were wearing swimsuits (with shorts over them) in the morning service. I’m glad the youth were there. I’m glad they were in the service. But they shouldn’t have been wearing swimsuits. (And I’m not sure a mixed group of youth at a water park is such a good idea, either–call me crazy, but I’ve been a youth, too. Parents would be shocked if they knew what was going on on most youth trips.)

This can be a controversial issue. But I think we need to take a closer look at the message we’re actually sending by dressing down at church. It may not be the message we’re intending to send.

Published in: on April 13, 2008 at 8:22 pm  Comments (1)  

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  1. I always wear a dress to church!

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